Love & Relationship
16 Signs Of A Cheating Boyfriend In A Relationship
Women get that instinct in their gut. Yeah, women have that superpower and they are too good at playing this gut instinct game. But if you are unsure or want accurate surety about your cheating boyfriend, you should probably know these 16 signs.
16 signs that a man is cheating
1. He appears to be incredibly busy all of the time
You are the only one who knows everything there is to know about your lover. You’re aware of everything that’s going on in his life, from his huge goals to his day-to-day duties.
If he’s still in school, you’re familiar with his classes; if he’s employed, you’re familiar with his typical work environment.
However, everything seems to be on overload these days. There’s always a crisis at work that he and he alone must manage, or he’s been assigned new classes with slave-driving teachers. That’s what a cheating boyfriend says, at least.
2. He appears to be preoccupied
When he cheats on you, he hardly looks you in the eyes. Because he isn’t paying attention, you find yourself repeating things to him.
He has a hard time staying in the conversation and is constantly staring behind you. If he’s cheating on you, you’ll notice he’s cut himself apart from your relationship in a variety of ways.
“If your partner’s actions start altering, it could be an indication of infidelity,” says family therapist David Klow.
3. He squabbles with you over little matters
Nobody’s relationship is perfect, and anyone who claims they never quarrel or argue with their partner is lying. L
ittle quarrels here and there (and even some major ones) are all part of the relationship experience, but at the end of the day, both of you should seek to understand each other better.
However, if your boyfriend is cheating, seems to fight you more than he used to, and the arguments he chooses seem to be over the tiniest and most insignificant issues.
4. You have to cope with his mood swings all of the time
As we discussed earlier, your partner seems to have developed a habit of emotionally manipulating you by picking conflicts over trivial matters.
However, it’s important to note that his mood isn’t always one of rage and frustration. There are times when he’s back to his old, loving self and may even be more affectionate than before. This inconsistency in his behavior may leave you wondering about his true feelings towards you.
Does he despise you or adore you?
The answer is not so straightforward. Your partner may have loved you at one point, but now that he’s playing around with another female, his emotions are all out of whack. He’s up and down about his feelings for you, and he’s never truly stable about it. The emotional manipulation and playing with your feelings can make it difficult to know where you stand in his eyes.
5. He believes he is unimportant
If you make your partner feel unimportant to you, he’ll probably start seeking someone else. Feeling indispensable to a woman is frequently what distinguishes “like” from “love” for a male. And feeling unimportant is a common catalyst for withdrawing and even cheating.
Don’t get me wrong: your boyfriend admires your strength and ability to be self-sufficient.
However, he still wants to be wanted and valuable, not disposable! This is because men are born with an innate longing for something “higher” than love or sex. It’s why guys who appear to have the “ideal girlfriend” are nevertheless unsatisfied and are always looking for something else—or, worse, someone else.
6. You find out he has a new email address or phone number
The importance of privacy between couples cannot be overstated. After all, you have your own lives, social circles, and activities to attend to.
It doesn’t always indicate they’re cheating if you don’t have access to their phones or social media accounts. Good limits are what distinguish healthy from unhealthy relationships.
However, there is such a thing as having too much privacy. It’s understandable to want to keep your social media presence private, but it’s not understandable to discover duplicate profiles of him, possibly under a different name.
It’s acceptable that they don’t have access to their email address, but it’s a red flag if his credit statements are sent to a different address.
7. His habits have shifted without warning
It’s hard to be unaware of your one and only boyfriend’s routines and habits, so when they abruptly alter, it’s cause for concern. Humans are creatures of habit, and whether we like it or not, we all fall into a set of daily or weekly patterns. So, is your guy up to something new or different now?
Consider what his routines were in the past and what they are now. Instead of leaving for work at 7 a.m. and returning at 6 p.m., he now leaves at 5 a.m. and returns at 8 p.m. You don’t think his time makes as much sense as it used to.
8. Continually addressing someone…or not mentioning them at all
When you’re in love with someone, you tend to talk about them often, often without realizing it.
If your boyfriend is cheating on you, it’s a strange irony that he can wind up ‘telling’ you about it by constantly talking about his new interest. If the name of a lady keeps coming up in conversation, you should be cautious.
When this happens, it’s usually a coworker or someone he meets in a completely unrelated situation, which means he has no idea that chatting about them is unusual. He isn’t thinking about the other woman; he is only thinking about work.
9. More or less sex
If your partner is attracted to another woman and has sex with her, he will most likely change how he has sex with you.
If they cheat on you, some guys will refuse to have sex with you. They may even believe that having sex with you is ‘cheating’ on them.
Or they may have simply lost interest since they are preoccupied with something else. Consider why he stopped initiating and began to avoid circumstances where you would initiate (such as early nights).
When they’re cheating, other men will crave sex even more. Having more sex means it’s on their mind, regardless of who they’re with.
10. He quickly picks up his phone. a lot more than normal
Smartphones make it easier to cheat, but they also make it easier to catch cheaters. A shift in your boyfriend’s phone usage is a strong indicator that he’s cheating.
If your partner seems to be on his phone a lot more than normal, he could be playing a game or checking business emails. Inquire casually as to why he always appears to be holding it in his hand. His reaction will reveal a lot about whether or not he is a cheater.
11. “Why can’t you be more daring or fun?” he says, for example
If he starts focusing on the relationship’s perceived shortcomings, it’s an indication of adultery. He might be annoyed that you’re not the same as the woman with whom he’s having an affair.
This is especially true if he starts to question why you’re not having enough fun or why you’re not experimenting enough in the bedroom.
Even if it’s merely an affair, any relationship can start filthy and passionate. In his view, he is blaming his unfaithful habits on you, therefore focusing on your defects could be a sign of hatred against you.
12. He isn’t looking for your approval any longer
He doesn’t go out of his way to make you happy or special. It’s as if he doesn’t give a damn what you think of him.
You’ll occasionally see him wearing that shirt you used to love on one of his mystery boys’ night outs. It’s not that he’s given up on growing as a person; it’s that he’s given up on growing for you. If his conduct has suddenly gone from wanting to please you to not care what you think, he’s probably looking for affirmation somewhere else.
He no longer feels the need to please you and work hard in your relationship because he is obtaining approval elsewhere.
13. You get information about him from someone else
You were the first to learn about promotions at work or the vexing incident that occurred during lunch. For a while, your relationship appeared to be entirely open. Because he honestly (and enthusiastically) revealed what was going on in his life, you knew what was going on in his day.
Obtaining information from him now appears to be impossible. He isn’t as forthcoming with information as you would like, and you frequently feel out of the loop.
You’d learn new details about his life through pals or (worse) when he spilled them on purpose. It’s as though he’s told these stories to someone else before, but it just so happens that it wasn’t you.
14. Reduced communication
Have you ever been in a situation where you’re sitting in the same room as your partner, but there’s no communication between you?
You both spend hours on your phones, doing something completely unrelated, and it feels like you might as well be alone. To make matters worse, your partner seems more interested in what’s going on with their phone than being present with you.
It can be frustrating and disheartening when you’re physically together, but emotionally distant. If this situation continues, it may be time to consider taking a break in your relationship. It’s crucial to have open and honest communication with your partner about how you’re feeling and what you need from the relationship.
Taking a break can provide both of you with the space you need to reflect on your individual needs and desires. It can also give you the opportunity to work on personal growth and improve the relationship in the long run.
Remember that taking a break doesn’t necessarily mean the end of the relationship. It can be a chance to step back, re-evaluate the relationship, and come back stronger with a renewed sense of love and commitment.
15. You are receiving occasional gifts
He’s been stocking up on “guilty pleasures. Gifts purchased out of the blue say “I love you” more than anything else. Even though there hasn’t been a special occasion in a while and your anniversary is still a few months away, your partner continues to shower you with amusing gifts.
You’re not getting ordinary gifts; you’re getting extraordinary, pricey items that you’d only expect to receive on significant dates in your relationship.
This would normally be a reason for rejoicing. Your partner is lavishing you with affection, demonstrating how deeply he adores you. But something isn’t quite right here. You have a gut feeling about it. The mysterious gifts are one thing, but you’re aware that there’s more.
16. Your friends have probably sensed it
If your friends are still having trouble trusting him after all this time, consider the possibility that they are right: he isn’t very deserving of your trust.
Do your buddies always alert you when something is “off”? Do they tell you to dig a little deeper because they, too, have a bad feeling? Consider your friends’ counsel if they insist on you keeping a closer eye on your companion.
What to do when you think your boyfriend is cheating on you?
However, if you’ve recently noticed several of these signs in your partner and you’re concerned that things aren’t going well in your relationship, I urge you to take action now before things become any worse.